If you’ve kept up with my posts so far, you’ve already gotten a sneak peek into the life I packed into my last 10 ish years. What started as a journey to support my son as a single parent has evolved into a lifestyle and a mindset that I constantly need to be pushing, dreaming and achieving. There’s nothing wrong with pushing, dreaming and achieving, but I’ve often felt exhausted, even struggled to find balance between all of the hats I wear and felt guilty when I’m not always focused on the next goal. When I stumbled upon an article by Tamisha Sanjnani, it articulated everything I’d been trying to say – I never asked to be Superwoman.
Single Mother. Daughter. Sister. Homeowner. Manager. Teacher. Friend. Board Member. These are just a few of the hats I wear on any given day, or simultaneously throughout the day, and for a long time I’ve prided myself on being able to do, and be it all. But as I’ve entered my late 20’s I’ve started to realize maybe I don’t want to do it all. Perhaps the strongest women are those who are able to say no, politely, confidently and unapologetically.
I’m sure I’m not the only woman who feels this way, heck I’m surrounded by strong women who are filling their plates and doing their absolute best to have and be it all. Yet, I’m intrigued by Sanjnani’s perspective, the notion that “enjoying moments of leisure is not an ‘avoidable luxury’; it is an ‘essential necessity’ to keep ourselves those around us happy.”
Obviously, there are times in our lives where we’re going to have to hit hard. There will be never-ending workdays, demands from our children/families and obligations to our careers, the point isn’t that life as a woman will always be easy. But for me, this article reiterates that as I become more established (as a parent/in my career/with my relationships), I have the ability to say no without feeling guilty. I can choose the opportunities that define my happiness and those that would distract from it, because after all, a strong woman knows that you can’t do everything if you want to do anything well.